While people have many and varied goals that they pursue, there is an almost
universal underlying goal to virtually all pursuits: the goal to be happy. People who
spend a lot of time making money generally do so because they believe that the money
itself will make them happy, or will guard them against things that will make them
unhappy. If the focus isn’t on the money, but on the jobs that bring the money, those
jobs are generally thought to make people happy. People strive for that perfect
relationship, the perfect house, the beautiful body, the approval of others, all in an
attempt to be happy. Sometimes these things make us happy; other times, we stress
over not having reached our goals, or we reach them and find that we’re still not
happy. Other times, we focus so intensely on one goal that’s thought to bring
happiness that we don’t have time for other things in our life that will make us truly
happy. This can all be confusing, and begs the question: how does one reach the goal
of being happy?

The following is a step-by-step guide that can help you explore the current state of
your life, assess how truly happy you are, and find a direction to work toward that will
likely bring more happiness. You’ll also find resources and tips for reaching your
happiness goals and setting new ones. These pages are the gateway to a life that truly
makes you happy.

If you’re trying to make positive changes in your life, it’s important to set yourself up
to succeed:

1.First, set small, attainable goals. Work your way into a new habit with
baby steps, and you’ll feel more successful every step of the way, and be less
likely to give up.

2.Next, reward your progress; for each small goal you reach, allow yourself to
feel pride, and perhaps give yourself a small reward.

3.Don’t forget to enlist social support! Tell the supportive people in your life
what you’re attempting to acheive, and tell them of your successes. This will
give you added strength, and will make it less appealing to give up (and have to
explain yourself to those close to you)!


Balance in my Life

Is it possible to live a balanced life, effectively juggling responsibilities and roles to

keep a work life balance? Life imbalance can result when we fail to build a strong

personal foundation. Unbalanced lives are also an effect of people taking on too many

responsibilities without protecting the roles and responsibilities most important to

them. Conscious attention to the five building blocks of a strong foundation can

counter overwhelm and return life balance.

Work Life Balance

Employees are being asked to do more, to take over the responsibilities of others due

to layoffs and consolidations. Many households are two income units, adding childcare,

family responsibilities, and household duties to work responsibilities of the family.

Technology enables people to connect to work around the clock. And many employers

expect it; there's no need to cover for someone on vacation, they're always

reachable. It's easy to expend one's time and energy on work and end up feeling

guilty about neglected aspects of life.

What Is Balance?

Balance is a feeling of fulfilling all of one's important roles appropriately. Life

balance isn't so much about the time spent among various roles, but is more related

to the degree of engagement we feel in each role and the importance of the role.

Balance isn't about what we do, but the fulfillment and meaning we get from what we

do. We don't balance our lives by using more gadgets to multitask. We balance by

focusing on what's important to our happiness.

Foundations of Life Balance

Consider these five components of a strong personal foundation resulting in a happy,

fulfilling, and balanced life:

Strong Relationships

There may be nothing more important to a balanced, fulfilling life than strong


Relationships are how we experience ourselves. These are the mirrors in which we

observe ourselves being who we are. Research studies confirm that strong

relationships are important to happiness, longevity, and good health.

Life Purpose and Priorities

Without purpose and meaning, life becomes boring, unfulfilling and unrewarding.

Studies show that meaningful activities are crucial to happiness. With clarity of

purpose, we're able to effectively prioritize our activities and concentrate our

energies on roles and efforts that are truly important to us.

Meaningful Activities

When the activities we engage in are meaningful to us, we engage ourselves with

passion, energy, and purpose. It's important that we take on roles and responsibilities

that feel "worth doing." What is meaningful is unique to each individual, based on

purpose and values.

Interesting Activities

We each have certain unique strengths and competencies which set us apart from

others. When we engage these strengths in our daily routines we are interested,

engaged, and involved. Life feels balanced when our activities are meaningful and


Values Consistency

Stress results when we find ourselves in a conflict between what we value and what is

asked or expected of us. A person valuing honesty will be racked with stress if placed

in a position of being less than fully honest.

Balanced Life

Balance your life on a strong personal foundation by focusing time and energy on

relationships, purpose, and meaningful and interesting activities which are congruent

with your values.